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All I want is a thank you... |
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MY BEST ADVICE |
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03/26/2002 |
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I just started a new job. But with the way the economy is, I'm walking on eggshells, thinking that if I mess up, I'm out the door with nary a bat of the eye.
I'm basically an assistant to a hyper-powered entertainment executive who rarely says a kind word, barely a thank you. I can't gage the quality of my work because all I get are criticisms. There's virtually no training program here so I'm forced to learn everything the hard way, as everybody is too busy to lend a hand. Inevitably, I mess up, and I'm super hard on myself whenever this happens.
I have a steely work ethic. I'm serious. Educated. Easy to get along with. I've put in 36 hours in three days, taking only smoke breaks and no lunches. I'm the first one in the office, and the last to leave.
I just feel like without the positive reinforcement I'm going to be constantly paranoid about losing my new job. I've asked my boss if there are areas I could improve in, and he was noncommital in the conversation and vague. So I'm definitely making an effort.
I love the people I work with and am excited about the industry I'm in. I'm just trying to figure out if there's anything I can do about the situation or if I should brush all this off as simply having to pay my dues. Help!
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Having had a very similar situation my best advice would be to start looking. While I realize the last thing you want to do is begin the hunt all over again, my experience taught me that this type of situation 99.9% of the time does not have a happy ending. Even though your new situation is exciting and you like the people you work with the bottom-line is your new boss - for whatever reason - has given you absolutely no positive reinforcement whatsoever. My work ethic is the same as yours and I've worked 12-14 hour days 5,6, and even 7 days a week. But the ultimate pay-off was not worth the exhaustion, the emotional torment, the loss of self-exteem and persistent nausea and headaches every time I walked into the office.
If I had the opportunity to turn back the clock and change the choices I made, I would do it in a heartbeat. It would have been better to find freelance work then allow myself to remain in an abusive situation.
Keep control of your desitiny rather then leaving it in someone else's hands.
GOOD LUCK !!!
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