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New Grad venturing into Real World |
| Message Name: |
Thank you |
| Date Posted: |
05/06/2001 |
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also I want to clarify a bit on my first two points.
How can one be friendly to everyone and yet not get involved in the "talking behind others backs". Well at times its a balancing act.
I suggest not being "friendly" to the point of joining a club of gossips and joining that club by talking others down. What you might do is chat a bit and disarm that talk a bit with humor or some unrelated comment and move on to work that you have to do. This takes some practice, but some of the nicest people I've worked with could listen to some venom or complaint and put out a joke or some other funny remark that didn't necessarily agree or get into the complain mode, yet left the group chuckling to themselves.
Such humor would be along the lines of a story where something bad happened (elsewhere) or something trivial yet funny. Some people who are without any sense of humor will not be able to take this and these should be avoided as much as possible.
The vipors, who look to hurt and bite and backstab are best left alone and avoided. There are some who you need to avoid.
So in a sense with some climates, you can't be nice to "everyone" but need to avoid some of the more damaging personalities at the office. (This might be labeled, "being invisible" or "flying under the radar") Some people are troublemakers and try to create trouble for you, even as they appear to be your friends.
These can be often spotted because they will cut down others behind their backs and try to be overly friendly to you. Beware they may cut you down, so it's best to avoid those who are overly negative and experts (especially at cutting others down).
These are basic office and job survival skills in my opinion. |
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To the First job poster:
Thank you kindly for your great advice. I know office politics can kill or make a career, so your advice is very helpful.
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