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tough situation....need advice. |
| Message Name: |
tough situation |
| Date Posted: |
10/25/2005 |
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my brother-in-law moved me and my wife from NJ to CA 7 months ago to work for his Jeans company. I am an experienced engineer (14 years) and am having a real tough time working in a non-technical position. i think 7 mos. is plenty of time to know whether it is right for me or not. i was also promised a substantial increase within the first few months which has already passed. My wife says i should ask for the raise now so we can decide whether we are going to stay in CA. She is also having a real tough time with her job here. I am lousy with these type of situations....i am a people pleaser and usually suffer in situations like this way longer than i should. My brother-in-law just bought me a dirtbike to ride with him yesterday. he has been giving me things like this lately....could it be a way of keeping me content?? confuses me. anyhow here is what i need help with...how do i approach him about all this? if i dont get the raise do i tell him i have to leave? i havent slept for days thinking about this so any help would be appreciated!! thanks.
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| Message: |
Looks as though your brother knows things are tough and he is trying to get you to stay. He's just not going about the situation the right way. See if you can work out some type of compromise with him instead of quiting on him.
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