my brother-in-law moved me and my wife from NJ to CA 7 months ago to work for his Jeans company. I am an experienced engineer (14 years) and am having a real tough time working in a non-technical position. i think 7 mos. is plenty of time to know whether it is right for me or not. i was also promised a substantial increase within the first few months which has already passed. My wife says i should ask for the raise now so we can decide whether we are going to stay in CA. She is also having a real tough time with her job here. I am lousy with these type of situations....i am a people pleaser and usually suffer in situations like this way longer than i should. My brother-in-law just bought me a dirtbike to ride with him yesterday. he has been giving me things like this lately....could it be a way of keeping me content?? confuses me. anyhow here is what i need help with...how do i approach him about all this? if i dont get the raise do i tell him i have to leave? i havent slept for days thinking about this so any help would be appreciated!! thanks.
