| Topic Name: |
colleagues & bosses |
| Message Name: |
confidential conversations |
| Date Posted: |
10/20/2004 |
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Need help!!
Is there something I can do/should do when I feel that my colleague told our boss what I told her to keep just between us?
In one of my conversations with this colleague, I mentioned that I was very sad and confused early part of this year due to some misguided directions for my role due to the re-org/re-structuring in our company. And I feel, it????s maybe the right time for me to consider other positions. (may be not the right term I used????). This colleague just joined us recently and we had some casual chats. Told her to keep it between us.
However, it feels that our boss learned about my doubts. He sent the 2 of us an email recently, saying ???? your current roles are secure within the department????????. I????m more worried about my future relationship with my boss rather than my security in the job. Seems that there will be ????trust???? issues with my boss. Is there anything I should do here?
Please help. Thanks
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| Message: |
I think a few actions are appropriate.
First, never discuss infomration with an unknown person that you believe could be harmful if revealed to a third party. The phrase "just between us" is often a catalyst for spreading unwanted information.
Second, if you are sure it was this colleague, speak to them in a calm, professional tone indicating that the conversation was confidential and that you expect them to honor their agreements in the future. I would not speak to them that you think your position with your boss might be jeopardized -- remember this could get back to your boss as well.
Thirdly, I would thank your boss for his support and that you appreciate him telling you that your job is secure. Don't beat this to death, it's normal in this economy for people to fear for their jobs. But harping on it could turn it into a bigger issue.
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