| Topic Name: |
Exit Strategy |
| Message Name: |
Disagree |
| Date Posted: |
02/06/2006 |
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NO, you have choices, perhaps you are not aware of them. Some random thoughts:
is it possible for you to report to someone else? You can pick your coach as you know. And, if you didn't know that, you can pick your coach. Take the courage Now to talk to someone in HR or another partner you trust confidentially. Talk in hypotheticals if that is helpful.
Also, you have the tool of upward feedback. I'd take the oppty for you and others to use this tool. Do not underestimate the power of this tool.
You sound like you enjoy the firm and love what you do, just perhaps not this particular individual. This is a Correctable Situation and the solution does not have to be your departure.
You can get through this. Have courage to move your energies from your fingers and the keyboard to speak up. If this situation is bothering you, it may also be bothering others in your practice area. If you leave, where does that leave them? It is up to each of us to make the firm better and stronger. I know you can do it.
If you want to talk to an outsider about this, I'd also suggest the EAP. The firm pays for this service up to three sessions. Sometimes an objective point of view can also provide you some tools and strategies for dealing with difficult situations.
Do not run from your problems and difficult situations. Deal with this as a challenging situation, you will be more satisfied with yourself in the long run. I'm concerned that you may start a situation within yourself that running from difficult situations is the only way out. It isn't. That is not what you would recommend to your clients.
Bosses change as you know. This is not a permanent situation. However, I'd ask you whether there is something in the feedback, despite the harsh delivery, that perhaps has a real development point? Business Development? Staff development? Growing client relationships? These are rhetorical questions to you, not something to answer here.
There are plenty of partners and other directors in the firm that can be inspiring to you. There are ways to make changes without it being some political suicide mission. It takes finesse and courage. If you don't want to talk to HR within your department, go outside of that chain.
I encourage you to reach out and stay with the firm. |
| Message: |
I think that it is humorous that you say people can pick their coach. This is only partly true. Yes, you can pick a coach however if it's not the coach the partner wants you to have, then you've just blacklisted yourself.
Regarding upward feedback, partners know who send in the info. I hope you're not naive to think otherwise.
HR is afraid of their own shadow. They're nice people however, they haven't a clue about how to handle the egos of partners.
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