| Topic Name: |
Exit Strategy |
| Message Name: |
Agree |
| Date Posted: |
02/04/2006 |
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NO, you have choices, perhaps you are not aware of them. Some random thoughts:
is it possible for you to report to someone else? You can pick your coach as you know. And, if you didn't know that, you can pick your coach. Take the courage Now to talk to someone in HR or another partner you trust confidentially. Talk in hypotheticals if that is helpful.
Also, you have the tool of upward feedback. I'd take the oppty for you and others to use this tool. Do not underestimate the power of this tool.
You sound like you enjoy the firm and love what you do, just perhaps not this particular individual. This is a Correctable Situation and the solution does not have to be your departure.
You can get through this. Have courage to move your energies from your fingers and the keyboard to speak up. If this situation is bothering you, it may also be bothering others in your practice area. If you leave, where does that leave them? It is up to each of us to make the firm better and stronger. I know you can do it.
If you want to talk to an outsider about this, I'd also suggest the EAP. The firm pays for this service up to three sessions. Sometimes an objective point of view can also provide you some tools and strategies for dealing with difficult situations.
Do not run from your problems and difficult situations. Deal with this as a challenging situation, you will be more satisfied with yourself in the long run. I'm concerned that you may start a situation within yourself that running from difficult situations is the only way out. It isn't. That is not what you would recommend to your clients.
Bosses change as you know. This is not a permanent situation. However, I'd ask you whether there is something in the feedback, despite the harsh delivery, that perhaps has a real development point? Business Development? Staff development? Growing client relationships? These are rhetorical questions to you, not something to answer here.
There are plenty of partners and other directors in the firm that can be inspiring to you. There are ways to make changes without it being some political suicide mission. It takes finesse and courage. If you don't want to talk to HR within your department, go outside of that chain.
I encourage you to reach out and stay with the firm. |
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As much as I knock big four job lifestyles i have to agree with your post on principle.
Based on my experience - there are jerks at the highest level of every organization. You could very well leave the company to go somewhere else and end up reporting to an even bigger jerk! Some of the behaviours you described are not so uncommon...some might even argue that these kinds of qualities that you need to develop to rise to the top but thats a tangent.
Either stand up to this guy or find an alternative through HR. If you've been with the firm for 10 years and are considered extremely technically competant etc - i have to think you have built up too much to throw it away because of one person with a power trip.
Learning to deal with this kind of bullshit and confronting it directly will change your life for the better. Running away from it might well make you miserable. Advice for dealing with jerks: read the 48 Laws of Power as available on Amazon.com. Think about it and apply it.
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