| Topic Name: |
So You've Been Found Out |
| Message Name: |
Confront him over unprofessional behavior |
| Date Posted: |
06/03/2001 |
| In Reply To: |
I started working nights and 98% of my co-workers are male. Not only do we work a night shift (8pm-6am), we also work 6-7 days a week. Because of this schedule it eliminates any possiblity of a social life. Since there are very few females and the other females that do work there are older, majority of my co-workers have developed a crush on me at one time or another. After work a group of us would go to breakfast or hang out to unwind and I became one of the guys. One of the guys (he also lives in the same appt. complex) was the floor supervisor when I started and then became the assistant supervisor insinuated to several of my co-workers that he and I were "doing the deed". We never had any encounters what-so-ever and I later discovered that he was sneaking into my appartment and stealing some of my clothing (you guessed it, my underware) I was appalled and let him know that I was aware of what he was doing in a rather public way. He played it off to everyone that it was a "Joke" (and all that macho bullshit). The head supervisor (a female) was told of the situation but because of her relationship (strong friendship, possibly more?) nothing was done! A new company took over and he was not hired on as a asst. supervisor. I now hold a higher paying position than he does (he's been working there for 10 and I have been there for 2 years) and now he is spreading rumors that I am sleeping with the boss to get ahead. I am currently in a relationship with a co-worker and we have been in this relationship for almost a year now. We do not display affection at work or around work and we maintain a normal professional relationship. These rumors about the boss and I are often brought up and I have no idea how to put them to an end. Any suggestions? I have considered filing a police report and getting a restraing order in regards to the underware stealing issue which would force him to get other employment but that incident happened 9 months ago so I don't think it would work. |
| Message: |
If the rumor spreading is getting in the way of the job being done, it is important both for you and the company that the issue be put to rest.
Confront him, as you have done in the past, with the question of why he is spreading false rumors. Assuming your previous complaint was well-witnesses and documented, his actions would be actionable. That would expose the company to high legal liabilities, and you can expect upper management to move swiftly to either put a stop to it or to simply get rid of him.
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