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Office Rumors |
| Message Name: |
Rumors |
| Date Posted: |
06/01/2001 |
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I've been working in a company for about 4 years now (the longest of the the existing staff) and have made the huge mistake of dating 2 co-workers in the past (not at the same time) both of whom have gotten fired. One of them for poor performance, the other for the same reason plus...choking me. A significant number of the male employees that have come through this rather small company, have had some type of sexual interest or crush on me. I suppose I am rather good looking (from what I'm told) and just seem to attract the strangest of men. I have worked hard here and have gotten pretty far within the company. This bothers some of my co-workers and they have the opinion that my boss (who is also male) favors me or that he even "likes" me.
Though our company consists mainly of females now (thank God), I am having major problems with a recent addition to the company...also male. I have found out recently that he has been spreading rumors that the reason why I "get to do" what I want is because I am giving my boss sexual favors. I can't begin to describe how this makes me feel. I'm confused and disgusted. It has affected my overall performance and attitude. I don't even want to mention it to my boss, because it just seems that there are always hints of sexual harassment hovering over me. I'm frustrated and don't even want to work here anymore just based on the bad history and memories. Except I have great salary and comission that I have built up. But is it always going to be this way? Should I just leave and not fight it and become a Nun?
Does anyone have any good advice?
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I know exactly what you are dealing with. I have been working in a grocery store for the last two years and I have advanced rather quickly. I started out as a cashier. When I was hired on the store was remodeling and I volunteered to help reset the store due to the remodeling. I never called in sick and anytime I was called in to work I was there. Among my co-workers I was the youngest female 28 yrs. when majority of the company was well over 40. Since I was working the extra time I got to know employees in various departments. I am very friendly and outgoing and have no problem getting along with people. Shortly after I transferred into a different position that came open with the same company but I earned a pay increase of $3 more per hour. Several of my co-workers filed a complaint against me stating that I was the "favored" employee when in fact it wasn't favored but most reliable. The position was posted and none of the people complaining applied. Now I work for a seperate company but at the same place and my wages have increased $6 per hour in the last two years. I am now working with mostly men (only 4 females) and I am the youngest. There have been speculations regarding my boss and I. All my co-workers insinuate that I am favored or that the boss has a crush on me and that's why I have the position I am in. I don't believe that is the case and if it is, it's not noticed by me. I do agree that the boss does in fact favor me but I think it's due to the fact that we have the same background and job experience and he moved up the company as quickly as I seem to be. I have had one office romance that is longterm and still ongoing. Majority of our co-worker do not know of our relationship, not because it's a secret but because we keep our relationship out of our work environment. A new position has opened up as a supervisor and I feel that I would be good for the position is not available to me because of my relationship (it would make me his boss) and also his Mom works there as well. All three of us are qualified and would do well in the position but because of the relationship Boyfriend/girlfriend, Mother/son, we are all ineligable for it, so until something changes (their employment, my employment, end of the relationship) my ability to move up in the company is at a stand still. I am currently looking for a new job because I feel I have gone as far as I am able to and advancement at this point is not an option. Not fair but that's the price of a work romance.
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