| Topic Name: |
Boss/Assistant affair |
| Message Name: |
How to cope |
| Date Posted: |
02/06/2000 |
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My high ranking boss is involved in an ongoing affair with his "assistant" which has gone on for a few years elevating her from originally a secretary to a created position that never existed before where she is in charge of all of our personal records, budgets etc. She also has been given the unofficial "power behind the throne" slot where she is immune to any criticism, or at least she feels that this is the case. They are both extremely volitile and moody so they fight and curse at each other in front of the staff of this large corporation. She treats subordinates and people above her with the same disdain but is and has been getting away with it other than pretty much everyone talking behind their backs. Most of us are waiting for the ax to fall in one way or another. My boss is married with children yet none of us has ever seen them although we socialize and he is still living at home. I know this is an old story but it has caused a good amount of distruction to our department causing people to leave etc. The clincher is that he has a real "assistant" who is run through the ringer daily by his unofficial one. Anybody been there and how do you cope with this kind of behavior? |
| Message: |
Apparently you value your position to put up with this when others are leaving, so you may not want to hear this. In my opinion, your company is going to decay rapidly and it isn't worth it to hang in there. I would update my resume immediately and get it circulating.
My current company's former owner was rumored to be having an affair with the HR director, and he eventually sold part ownership to her. We've been more fortunate because they were very discreet. But the bottom line is, she has poor HR skills, no knowledge of operations, selected a poor operating software system, has no respect for anybody's skills or ambitions, and these shortcomings are killing the better skills and accomplishments of the other partner.
We have lost several good people who have not been replaced by anyone as competent. This has placed a great deal of stress on those left who do have something to contribute. The office staff feels overwhelmed and the workplace negativity is enormous dragging down everyone else.
I feel your problem is a cancer that is just going to get worse. Good luck.
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