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How do you deal with stress? Help? |
| Message Name: |
Self-image |
| Date Posted: |
01/30/2002 |
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It is pretty obvious that you HAVE to get out of there. Just choosing a similar job in another shop may not be much of an improvement. Expand your search and consider other possibilities. For example, are there other kinds of business', other industries, or different jobs that would allow you to use your current skill set? Can you start your own shop using your current skillset? Can you walk away from this job without another to go to?
ONE OTHER THING... If you can avoid it, don't take the opportunity to tell off your present company/boss. It will do no good, possibly label you a troublemaker in the industry and most important ... won't change anything. Your best revenge is in living well. Move on. |
| Message: |
The most important advice I can offer is this-do not allow your professional successes, failures and aspirations shape your self image.Employment is a means to an end-not an end in and of itself. Viewing any portion of your assigned duties as grunt work and beneath your ability is a sure fire recipe for discontent.Focusing on what your supervisor and/or fellow consultants are doing in relationship to what your responsibilities and perceived contributions are for any portion of a project creates resentment.Resentment is a wasteful emotion that leads to ulcers and poor job performance.Focus must be on completing your share of the work on time and as well as possible under the circumstances. Take pride in your work but don't define who you are as a person by it.
If you choose to continue as a consultant,view time spent in difficult circumstances as a challenge and a learning experience.And by all means leave your work at the office. It takes time but eventually you will be able to separate who you are from what you do. Until then ,it will be difficult to find any work that is satisfying.
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