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How do you deal with stress? Help? |
| Message Name: |
advice to take and not to take |
| Date Posted: |
01/29/2002 |
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No one ever said consulting was easy, but it doesn't have to be agonizing.
I am so burnt out these days, it is absolutely ridiculous. I feel like I've been sold a cheap bag of goods. I'm not doing any of the work that it was inferred that I would be doing when I got hired. I've essentially become a grunt for one of the higher ups, doing work that is neither meaningful or challenging but is necessary. I didn't need to go to grad school to do this work. I'm quite confident that any one of the bright people on this message board could do the work I do everyday without much training.
I'm reaching the point of absolute frustration and anger that I dread even coming into the office and having to deal with my direct supervisor (who is a self-serving jackass). I think all of this frustration has amplified the day-to-day stress that is typically associated with consulting. Double whammy!
Since I started working here, I've lost motivation, the enjoyment of the work and the will to keep going (even though I still somehow find a way). The manager who hired me has told me that he thinks that I'm a very bright guy with good skills. But I know that my lack of desire and motivation is showing in my work. They're just not getting what they want out of me.
I feel that I could snap any day now. And as I stay late tonight after all the bosses have left knowing that I will be stuck here for several more hours, I can do nothing more than wade through the knee-deep river of crap that I'm in and just try to survive.
I want to leave this job badly, but the economy has cornered me here. of course the next logical step would be to talk to the boss and level with him. I don't know how the office manager is going to react if I told him that I no longer want to work on the project that I was explicitly hired to work on, and I also don't know how he would react if I told him that my supervisor is a piss poor co-worker and supervisor.
If I know that I'm going to quit this job as soon as the economy heals and hiring within business/strat consulting firms starts kicking up again, then why would I "rock the boat" here by laying everything on the line? Wouldn't it be more prudent to suck it up (somehow), leave on the best terms possible, get a good recommendation and move on, or should I speak my mind and let the chips fall where they may?
Make no mistake about it, I'm miserable, to the point where I get a sick-to-my-stomach feeling every Sunday evening just thinking about the fact that I have to be here at work on Monday morning, no joke.
Any advice? Anyone feeling the same way about their job? |
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I knew as soon as you wrote you would get two type of responses.
1) grow up baby (some mean, some nice)
2) get out of there.
I cannot stress enough to tell the first group to go fuck themselves, even though both make sense.
In a tough situation one either changes one's self or one's surroundings. Doing the latter too much and you are a quitter, the former too much you are a spineless cog in the machine.
So its a balance. In this case however, the choice is clear. Get out of there as soon as possible. Make a plan and be systematic, or just jump ship and do something fun in a geographic location where pay is not important, and regroup.
Life is too short to put up with that bullshit. There is more out there for those who look for it.
And don't let those who tell you to suck it up and stop being spoiled make you feel like a loser.
Your situation is not untypical (I am in it right now in fact),
Most people are too narrow to see how much their lives suck. Think of it this way: Throw a frog in boiling water, and it jumps out. Put it in lukewarm water and slowly turn on the heat. It will stay until it dies.
Jump out.
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