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How do you deal with stress? Help? |
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I've been there |
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01/22/2002 |
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Thanks for the input DemiSec.
I like to consider myself a fairly logical and reasonable person. I know better than to jump the gun and start blasting away at the first sign of adversity or a bad experience. I've been through the mental exercise of "giving it time", "being patient", and "not being impulsive", etc.
Since I started a year ago, things have only gotten worse. My difficulties with my supervisor were somewhat validated when I found out a couple of my co-workers had a deep dislike for him as well. The difference is that I am on his project team and was specifically hired to be on his team.
I couldn't agree more when you suggest utilizing the work to my advantage by molding it into something that can develop my skills. Unfortunately this is hard to do with grunt work.
I am reluctant to bring up my difficulties with my direct supervisor to my manager. But I believe I have a legitimate gripe with the assignments that I've been given over the last year.
Luckily my office manager is a fair and respectable guy. He's not the easiest person to talk to but he has shown that he has integrity and I know he'll at least listen to me.
As this night wears on, I get more and more bitter. My supervisor should be here helping me with this work so that it would go twice as fast and we'd meet our deadline tomorrow, but of course he conveniently left at 5pm and he just had to remind me that I must stay all night to finish this work if that's what it takes to make the deadline tomorrow.
This isn't even my work, it was his assignment to begin with!!!
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If it helps at all, you're not alone in the horror of a bad job. I too have had that sick feeling on Sunday night knowing that I had to go to work again on Monday. Luckily for me, I was laid off, and I used my (very) generous five-month severance to recover. For the first four months I couldn't even think about getting another job!
Eventually I got back on my feet, although my current job is fast spiralling down the drain. I recommend you check out a book called "Jobs that don't suck" by Charlie Drozdyk. It's filled with all the usual "network and be positive" job search advice, but he actually presents it in a way that's constructive and motivating (for me at least).
A new job aside, if you think your office manager will listen, I say you talk to him. Don't say anything at all about your supervisor -- things are so bad at this point that I doubt you could hide your anger and bitterness. The best thing would be to take the advice of the other people here and ask for a new assignment.
You say they're looking to hire two more people -- is there any way you can volunteer for one of these new jobs and suggest that one of the yet-to-be-hired do your current task? You could even do a little self-promotion "I've automated this system so that an entry-level candidate could handle it." If you're monumentally lucky, your office manager might notice that you've done all your supervisor's work. But probably not. Focus on how excited you are to work on something else, and get yourself out of this environment -- SOON!
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