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I feel violated! |
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Sticky situation |
| Date Posted: |
05/28/2002 |
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Funny thing happened to me today.
I got a call from some guy -- started off pretty innocuous. "You came in for an interview at my office a few weeks ago...you were the young lady in the black suit". I thought it was a job lead, so naturally, I humored this rather strange introduction. (didn't state where he was calling from or who he was).
Then the conversation veered off into bizarro world as this guy goes on: "I was the tall gentleman in the office. You must remember be. My name is XXX, I'm the company accountant. Oh, and do you exercise?" Then he tried to ask me out to dinner.
Turns out he dug up my resume and called me! Then he proceeds to tell me that HE LIVES DOWN THE STREET FROM ME! Well, thank God I turned down that job offer.
Has this happened to anyone? And would this count as sexual harrassment? |
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This man is definitely off the scale of appropriate behavior in using confidential information to further his social horizons. Although he may have felt an attraction to you and noticed your close proximity to him, his better judgment should have told him that pursuing you in this fashion was crossing the line.
Although his approach may be considered interesting (or even flattering) by some, it can also be cause for concern by others. It may be that he's simply guilty of poor judgment, but one can never be too careful.
It's a sticky situation, however you slice it. Obviously, he knows where you live, which would make me very uneasy. I would pay a visit to the local law enforcement and discuss the situation with them. They are professionals and know how to deal with these issues. I would also consider notifying his employer, perhaps withholding his name, but making a clear complaint that confidential information on your resume was used by one of their employees as a "personals ad" and you don't appreciate it. (And it could leave them open to liability.) On the other hand, if he has stopped pursuing you and there have been no further calls, I would let it drop. In the event it's something more than poor judgment on his part, no need to find out by stirring the pot. Again, your local law enforcement should be able to help you decide a course of action. Not to mention, they can also check his background for any previous actions taken against him for "stalking" behavior. Good luck!
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