| Topic Name: |
Touchy Issue |
| Message Name: |
Yes and No |
| Date Posted: |
03/25/2005 |
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They are usually insecure and hard to get along with.Most of them rule and make policies with the swing of their own emotions.In other words, you better off calling in sick when their moods are swinging.Most of them are gossip mongerers and love to prove to everybody that they are the boss.They want to prove to their male counterparts that they are tough and so they show to everybody that they are hard-assed and unfriendly.I am a gal and I don't like them at all.I don't understand them and I refuse to understand them. I figure they are so insecure in the men's world and they try to find courage by being tough to the rank and file, the ones that they know can't fight them back. |
| Message: |
I agree to some extent with what you say. The problem with Hag #1 was she was moved to credit administration from a relationship management position (in institutional banking this is perceived as a demotion). In credit she was a (my) group head and proceeded to change the demographic of the group to be more female. She favored the women and basically abused the men (2); the other one was an ex-pat and had his own deal so hed didn't care and I was the brunt of all her venom.
Hag #2 started out liking me; however when I began working more directly for her one of the group began undermining me because I did not buy into his "big man on campus" routine. Eventually I was doubting my abilities and asked and received a transfer back to my old job within the organization. A month after my transfer I left.
In both cases the abovementioned Hags (plural: Hageses? or is that a Scottish food) were terminated by the organizations they worked for; Hag #2 was give 1-hour to clean out her desk and was escorted off the premises. So as my mother-in-law was always saying what goes around comes around.
In these cases all that JBoll says was true. And some of my female counterparts in old and current jobs seem to have insecurities but I think that this is true of everyone except that some of us hide it better than others (male and female alike).
Bottom line is: if your boss is a jerk then they will always be jerks and that is something you need to deal with in some way.
(apologies for this dissertation length post).
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