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Unemployment |
| Message Name: |
she's a keeper |
| Date Posted: |
10/06/2004 |
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After a JD/MBA (top 5) I was terminated after 1 year from a prestigious NY firm. The reason: bad economy.
It took me 9 months to find another position in a similar firm.
I now consider myself lucky as this happened in the immediate wake of the 9/11 recession.
In the process of finding a job, I had to go through a lot of questions to which I had no good answers: why have I been let go, will I ever be employable again.... (I am sure this are no strange feelings to most of the posters.)
I also felt bad as my girlfriend was a successful young attorney, handling interesting deals while I was home receiving a rejection letter a day.
after the first massive wave of "you are wonderful but we have no job for you" letters, I managed to get some interviews. But I blew it as i could not explain why i was let go in a clear and simple manner. Full of resentment over my firing, I was trashing the firm and by way of consequence was discrediting myself in the eyes of interviewers. In addition my beahvior showed that I had been severly hit by what happened (I looked desperate)
It took me a while to understand it, and to come up with a positive way of presenting things and (most importanly) myself.
Then, after extensive introspection I accepted the fact that I had to start from scratch, that I had to stop complaining about what happened to me) and forget the top 5 school demeanor while not presenting myself as an underdog (an absolute detterant for employers).
And it worked! I finally got a job offer from a good firm staffed with decent human beings which allowed me to regain my lost self confidence.
In the process i have matured. I know now that professional accidents happen, that there is no shame in it and that at the end of the day you can find the inner strength to bounce back.
Above all I value the extent of the patience and support of my girl friend. Without her I would not have resisted this moment of intense doubt.
Now I am receiving call from headhunters...
good luck to you all!
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| Message: |
Lawone,
You're lucky to have a girl that's doing the right thing. She's a keeper. My ex-girl as of today told me that she's moving on and there are things that she wants(engagement ring, marriage)that she can't wait any longer for. I hope things get better and I get a job soon. They can't get much worse.
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