| Topic Name: |
Job offer acceptance |
| Message Name: |
What matters most to you? |
| Date Posted: |
10/06/2004 |
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I am currently employed and enjoy my postion to a degree. Of coarse, i have some serious problems with my boss, but that is not a show stopper. Recently, a major international corporation has offered me a position (and I was not even seeking one at the time). The offer is definitely agreeable and is not a concern.
where I am having problems is the fact that I am married (wife is non-working) with a child and a new one on the way. We do not care for the city we live in, however, we have become very comfortable here. We know several people, own a house, etc. We do not have any family here though.
Career wise, this job offer could make me for the rest of my life. However, I am having a hard time coming to terms with relocating to a brand new city and leaving the things I have become comfortable with the last few years.
Has anyone gone through something similar? Couldyou offer some insight or thought here? It is keeping me up at nights! |
| Message: |
I have lived in 6 different countries, some of which I have moved to sight unseen. Adjustment is always hard, especially when it involves not only a new environment but a new job as well. And moving is always a pain. And, there will be times during the first 3 or 6 months when you are convinced you have made the worst mistake of your life. BUT...
You can be comfortable anywhere. You can buy a house anywhere and make friends anywhere, and you can even keep your old friends if they are important to you. I have.
You are young (at least I assume so, with small kid and a pregnant wife). If you were 60, maybe comfort and security would be the critical factors. But at your age, it's too early to settle for comfort. Take a risk. If not this one, then another one.
I sense that you are feeling scared of this new opportunity - big new job, what if I fail? - and are looking for other reasons not to take it. You may be assuming your wife doesn't want to move, but have you asked her?
If you try it and it doesn't work you can always find another semi-okay job with a boss you don't like in a city you are not too fond of. If you don't try it, I can guarantee that is what you will end up with.
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