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romance? |
| Message Name: |
Tomorrow |
| Date Posted: |
05/05/2000 |
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Naysayers,
I can't speak for the other advisors, but in my case I have a girlfriend already. I choose to advise b/c although I no longer need them, I would be glad if someone else can benefit from my experiences. I have been in a similar must-have situation before. Romeo's motives are more noble than mine were at the time, so I feel something good may be able to come out of my lessons learned. Plus, this is more exciting than staring at Excel or Access all day.
Romeo,
I believe in a crescendo (sp?) pattern as far as moves go. I would pick a lighter, more casual, and less romantic "before" activity. A romantic dinner will seem like a step closer to intimacy, and hopefully the momentun will progress after that. When a guy sees a chick, even if he is scanning a crowd, he instantly makes a semi-conscious judgement as to whether he "would" or not. Women may not be so instantly visual, but they do tend to follow the binary pattern too, from my experience. I do think they have a wee bit more gray (undecided) area than men, but it's still small. I think that as long as you meet her coutship expectations you should end up horizontal sooner or later.
I sympathize with your fear of dancing, as my skills probably rival yours. If you are desperate to hide this (which you won't be able to do forever), stick with either a packed club with no room to move (you'll sweat like a pig though), or a super slow dancing place where you just rock back and forth.
Finally, I'd be looking at the road ahead too (obviously it depends on how the date goes). What do you want to follow up with, provided the date falls in a "normal amount of progress" category? Another dinner? A boat ride? An all-day getaway? A weekend in the mountains? I'm saying this now b/c the best time to ask is when she's still in a "high" during the date. Good luck,
Hand Toucher |
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Hand Toucher (and Juliet Wannabe, et al.) -
Two questions:
1. Would a "before" activity be appropriate given that I'm hoping for an "after" activity as well? Is there an "overdo" effect?
2. If it is appropriate, any suggestions?
For the "after," I think a club packed with people is out. I do want to elevate the intimacy level throughout the evening, and a dance club only detracts from that. If we can find an intimate little place (jazz club, etc.) that would be best.
The one suggestion of walking her home (it is in fact within a reasonable walking distance from her place) strikes me as having great potential, because whereas last time she gave me a kiss, perhaps this time she will invite me in ...
In terms of a follow-up date, I'm not really sure. A weekend in the mountains would be a lot of fun given the change of venue and still give us the time alone we need.
Romeo
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